It’s not my intention to preach here and I can totally relate to all of these 6 bad habits. In fact, I could probably write Debs’s Bible of Excuses. But that my dears, will never happen. For the WORDS we write and speak are powerful and I want to help you in some small way get your POWER back. Let’s knock these bad habits that squeeze the bejaysus from our dreams, on the head.
We all want to Succeed
Everyone has bills to pay, mortgages, rent, family, responsibilities. There are tons of reasons you can convince yourself to let go of your dreams. My desire is to put a STOP to the negative tirade that goes on inside your head. Coz it hurts.
First up, I have a family. And a dream and I have the cheek to want my kids to be HAPPY AND successful too. How? Show them I can SUCCEED. Lead by example.
And it’s not my intention to be patronizing. I understand. Guys, I have quite literally had a ton of shite lashed at me. I’ve had cancer… twice. Blood clots, stem-cell transplants, chemo, hair loss, full on menopause; I have a family, mortgage and bills to pay. But guess what?
I am happy. I have drive, ambition and a resolute positive mental attitude that time and again saves me. Also, I have the ability to kick my own curvy butt. If life knocks me down I pick myself, dust myself off and set the controls to “course readjustment mode”. REALLY! The only one who controls my life and pushes my buttons is me.
So, LET ME, HELP YOU.
Bad Habit 1. Stumbling around setting the Mood.
STOP trying to create the perfect situation to make your dreams happen. Oh, this is one of my favourites. You decide to light candles. Get your notebooks ready. Then suddenly you need to find the right objects to make the situation you need to get things done as comfortable as possible. The kitchen is dirty, so you go clean that. Better make the bed while you’re at it. Facebook pings, better have a look and see what’s happening. Snapchat bongs, twitter chirps, Whatsapp bings. Before you know it hours of fecking about have passed you by. Now, you are too bloody knackered to do anything so you give up. You tell yourself ‘tomorrow will be better’ then sit down and binge on Netflix and chocolate. And repeat. The only SOLUTION is to feck the kitchen, turn off your phone and make time. Start simple. Make a list. Which leads me to my next bad habit.
No 2 – Too many notebooks spoil the LIST (don’t judge me, I try).
This one took me years to figure out. If you are young, don’t waste time, just write it down. Have one notebook for your goals or visions and one for your to-do list. Not ten or twenty. Make a list of everything you want to achieve. Of all your goals and dreams. Then simply break it down into tasks you can easily accomplish now. PLAN! Make a list on Sunday for what you want to do Monday. Come Monday, do your very best to accomplish everything on your list. OMG! There is nothing like the feeling of checking off everything on your list. It is motivating. You have proved you can do something and see it through to the end. It’s almost better than eating a bar of chocolate. Now you have a bit of direction…
This is one of the Worst Habits. Number 3, Stop waiting around for other peoples PERMISSION to get things done.
Own your POWER. Be a LEADER. Waiting around for approval or other peoples permission or ‘blessings’ to succeed is a waste of your time. Your life is not up to anybody else. If like me, you are a grown up with free will and drive, then take the wheel and get your life on course. You honestly don’t need to ask for other people’s approval. It’s just another excuse to put off your dream. Truth is other people, even those with the best intentions, don’t live in your head or heart. And the ones that don’t have the best intentions seem to make the biggest impact. They are your friends or family who YOU have given permission to hold you back. Only you know what you want from this life. Turn up the volume on the little voice that tells you “YOU CAN DO IT” and mute the naysaying little fuckery voice. You know the one. It only suffocates your dreams.
The best way to predict your future, is to create it ~ Abraham Lincoln
Habit 3 merges into Habit 4 Freely giving away your power and control.
No amount of self-help books will help you unless YOU are willing to help yo’self bitches. TRUTH. Quite simply you are the MASTERS of your own DESTINY. Nobody else is unless of course, you let them. You are only a puppet if you give over your strings to someone else to pull and play with. The best advice I ever got “cut those strings and cords that are not for your highest divine good.” When you do it, you will be truly LIBERATED. Time to own the life you want to LIVE.
Bad Habit 5 – Playing The Blame Game.
Accept responsibility for your LIFE. Seriously, take ownership of how your life is right now. QUIT the blame game. Playing that game stunts your growth. WORD. When you continually blame others for what goes wrong in your life, it’s like blowing your health and wealth and happiness into a giant negativity balloon. It just gets bigger and bigger. And now it’s your anchor. A gargantuan negativity balloon, tied around your ankle and keeping you down in the mire. The more you blame other people the more you fill it. It starts to take over and the toxic wind seeps into your home, hopes and dreams. You become stuck in a past filled and weighed down with blame. It’s stifling. You could always POP that balloon and let go of the toxic hurt. LET IT GO. If I can do it, trust me, you can do it also. I promise when you free of all that blame you will float giddily on into more inviting waters.
Bad Habit 6 = The Bad Mantras.
Finally MAKE TIME for your dreams, especially the ones that matter.
Everything we say, do and own is comprised of energy. TRUTH. Words are a powerful energy form. History has proved it. Fascist rhetoric has convinced good people to do bad things. Positive words like Martin Luther King’s I have a dream speech, redirected and infused with love an entire nations thinking. Positive and Negative Words linger long after their speaker has moved on. Words so powerful that they encouraged or discouraged Nations to change their course in history. Imagine you have that much power inside you. If you use it negatively, like convincing yourself you have no time for example. You are literally brainwashing yourself. The more you say words like, not now, I can’t, I don’t have the time, not now, I can’t I don’t have the time, it creates a rhythm of negative energy you begin to dance to. BELIEVE me, when I say, you can CHANGE. BREATHE. Decide what it is you truly want. Dance to a different beat, change that rhythm up, mix it up. I gotta feeling, everything’s gonna be alright. If you want to be a writer. Get up an hour earlier and get the bus to work. Take notes and write ideas on the bus. INSPIRE yourself.
Take the TIME to LIVE YOUR DREAM. All it takes is a little commitment and investment by YOU.
PS These are cathartic notes to my EGO too. They are FREE notes. With words. Filled with love and HOPE. Make it happen. Be your BEST self. Don’t compromise your DREAMS. Have FAITH in your abilities. Set sail with LOVE. Conquer the WORLD with PEACE. INSPIRE.
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